Thursday, February 26, 2009
Yesterday we saw an example of a crazy, disorganized, Mom..we'll call her Messy Matilda. So what is her problem? Mostly she has no plan. When we plan things we know what to expect. There are no surprises..ok, sometimes there are surprises but were prepared and we can handle it. We aren't throwing a problem on top of other problems.
Matilda's first mistake was that she went to bed too late and when setting the alarm wasn't paying attention. She set it for pm instead of am. I don't know about anyone else, but I always double and triple check my alarm when setting it!
When Matilda finally woke up and jumped out of bed she tripped over a laundry basket. Well if Matilda had folded that laundry and put it away, she wouldn't have fallen. Screaming at her kids was another big problem. While Messy Matilda was the one at fault, she was screaming at the kids. Not fair to them at all.
Breakfast was of course the next disaster. Here, Matilda needs a menu plan. When you plan your meals on a Sunday and then make your shopping list from that meal plan, your not going to run out of things, buy things you don't need, and in the end you actually save money!
When Matildas daughter showed up with one sock and no panties, we obviously see that Matilda has no laundry schedule or routine. We must do laundry everyday. Who wants to deal with a mountain of laundry?? Not me, and certainly and obviously not Messy Matilda. She became overwhelmed when looking at the laundry and just gave up. When we do at least one load a day, we stay on top of it. I go so far as doing smaller loads. Less water, less drying time and so much easier and faster to fold and put away! Try it for a week..do small loads and see how easy laundry is to really do..I mean seriously the washing machine and dryer do all the work!!
Having to face dirty dinner dishes from the night before is the absolute worst way to start a day. Yuck! Waking up to a nice clean kitchen is what you should strive for. You'll be ready to start your day and even have motivation to make the kids a hot breakfast!!
I have already posted a sample schedule. I can't stress enough the importance of getting on a schedule and daily routine!
So lets do this! Get your notebook out..prepare your week. What day you want to clean what room, go shopping, etc. Don't be a Messy Matilda!!
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Ever have one of "those" days??
Errr..the alarm never went off, you jump out of bed and end up on the floor, because you trip over the laundry basket of clothes sitting at the end of the bed.
Run to the kids rooms and scream for them to wake up, "GET UP..YOUR GOING TO BE LATE!! NOW!!!!" Well that's not a very nice way to wake up is it? Why are you yelling at them? They didn't set the alarm for pm instead of am..you did!
You run downstairs and throw open the cupboards, find two almost empty boxes of cereal that you'll have to mix together to make enough for one bowl.
Go to the fridge and theres only a dribble of milk in the container
You mix it with some water..the kids will never know right?
You throw two spoons into the bowl and tell them to share.
At this point they aren't arguing with the crazy lady who has invaded their mothers body, they eat it and pretend to not notice that the cereal is mixed with what appears and tastes like white water.
In the mean time your digging in the couch cushions looking for enough change to make lunch money.
Your about to walk out the door and notice your daughter only has one sock on. "WHY DO YOU ONLY HAVE ONE SOCK ON?"
She looks at you and replies "That's all that was in my drawer, oh and I have no panties on either, there weren't any."
You run upstairs and find two matching socks, OK, almost matching, and grab a pair of your sons boxers. You hand them to your daughter. She is just looking at the boxers and won't even touch them much less put them on. FINE! She goes to school commando! Who will know besides you right?
You hustle the kids out the door to the bus that is just about to drive away until he sees you running after him, bathrobe flying open and hair that looks like you have something living in it.
After getting the kids on the bus you go home, walk into the kitchen and see the dirty dishes from supper last night staring back at you. You look at them, turn around walk upstairs and get into bed and pull the covers over your head wishing you could start this day all over.
Sound familiar? Days like this happen to the best of housewives and moms. But when it happens on a consistent basis, you better start to reevaluate what your doing. Because honey, it ain't working!!
Get a schedule in place. See the sample schedule and daily chore list.
Life will be much smoother when you know where things are, the fridge and cupboards are full, and the laundry is done and put away. When mom is stressed out and crazy, the kids are going to feed off of that. Your children will also learn from you. Don't you want your children to be organized and calm? Lead your children by example...don't be the "do as I say not as I do" kind of a Mom. It doesn't work. Make today the first day of a new and improved YOU!! You can do it! Just remember that you don't have to be perfect, or try and be Martha Stewart. Reaching for that will only guarantee failure. Set your bar high, but not so high that you will never reach it. Be realistic in your expectations of yourself!!
Tomorrow we will go through this crazy moms routine above, and analyze the whats and whys of it. You will see how simpley some of these problems can be fixed. You'll also see that she creates all her own stress and has no one to blame but herself!! Time to take responsibility for your own problems and fix them!!
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
WARNING GIRLY SQUEAL ABOUT TO TAKE PLACE: EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEK
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What does that mean to you?
We all buy a house. But making it a home is what counts. Home is where the heart is. To me that means it is where my family is. Where those that I love come together and create memories. Home is the place that makes you feel comfortable and safe. Good food, laughter, warmth,a little snuggling, and sharing your love for one another...that is a home. Its full of love and people feel that as soon as they walk through your door. Maybe its the smell of something cooking or baking in the oven, or the warm colors you decorate with. Maybe its the sound of laughter coming from another room. It is for sure the smile that you greet them with. A warm and genuine smile greeting someone and welcoming them into your home is something you don't find too often anymore. People seem to have lost the meaning of owning a house. Now it seems its just a place to rest your head after a long day. People don't seem to entertain as much. Maybe they don't feel like cleaning or cooking or making that effort. But why not?
Without people in your house, thats all you have...a house. People gathering together, family, friends, sharing a drink or a meal, laughing and teasing and joking..that is why we have our houses. To have a place to gather. Do you remember your grandparents home? It probably wasn't fancy. But you can still conjure up vivid memories of that home. The distinct smell when you walked through the door, the sound of the linoleum floor creaking beneath your feet, the feel of the pillows on the sofa, the sounds of Grandma singing in the kitchen...all memories of a home. It doesn't have to be fancy, it only has to be inviting.
Take the time to care for your home. It will always be the biggest expense and investment you make. Why would you let it fall apart? Have and take pride in your home. Create some memories, traditions for your children. Have Sunday dinner. Invite your family over. Share your home with your loved ones.
Monday, February 23, 2009
Stop being the Maid!!! You are the Mommy!! M is for Mom NOT Maid!! See those socks over there in the corner?? I know you want to go and pick them up right? STOP!!! Whose socks are they?? Call them from where ever they are right now and tell them to pick them up! What? They're in bed?? So what? Call them, wake them up! Yes your son will look at you like you have lost your mind! But he won't be leaving his socks all over the house anymore either!! Who wants to be woken up in the middle of the night by a crazy lady telling you to pick up your socks??? Nobody!! Believe me your family will get really tired of having to get up from what they are doing to put things away! But you must train them!! Its essential to keeping your home clean and keeping your self sane! Stop picking up after them!!!
You must have a routine to follow. A weekly cleaning schedule and also a daily chore list! Your daily chore list must get done every single day..no excuses!! A sample of daily chores would look like this:
WIPE DOWN KITCHEN, LOAD AND UNLOAD DISHWASHER
QUICK WIPE AND SWIPE OF THE BATHROOMS
AT LEAST ONE LOAD OF LAUNDRY, WASHED, DRIED, FOLDED AND PUT AWAY
QUICK RUN THROUGH THE HOUSE FOR A PICK UP AND PUT AWAY
FAST SWEEP AFTER MEALS, DISHES IN DISHWASHER AFTER EVERY MEAL..NEVER LEAVE DISHES IN THE SINK..EVER!
FAST WIPE DOWN OF FINGERPRINTS..USE THE MR.CLEAN MAGIC ERASER AND GO THROUGH THE HOUSE WHILE YOUR ON THE PHONE WITH YOUR FRIEND OR MOM..JUST WIPE DOWN FINGERPRINTS AND AROUND THE DOOR JAMS, LIGHT SWITCHES, ETC.
QUICK WINDEX OF MIRRORS AND WINDOWS IF NEEDED
If your consistent with these daily chores, your home will always be company ready!
For your weekly schedule you may have to play around with it till you find something that works for you. No two schedules will look the same. Some women work and find doing all their cleaning on the weekends works for them. Others find doing one room at a time is the key to their success! Here is just a sample of what my weekly schedule looks like! While most women who have small ones aren't able to do the whole house in two days, just do what you can when you can! Make a list of 10 things to do each day, and if you do it everyday, your home will be in order!
My weekly schedule
Clean out the refrigerator
Go grocery shopping
Mop kitchen floor
Vacuum stairs and family room and any other rooms if needed
Project Day. This is the day that I will clean a cupboard, drawer, closet or any other out of the ordinary chore that is not on my schedule. Each week I’ll see something that needs to be done. If I notice that the boy’s drawers are getting messy, I will make a note and do it on Tuesday.
UPSTAIRS CLEANING DAY
Strip beds and wash sheets
Clean bedrooms and upstairs bathrooms
BEDROOMS DETAILED LIST
- Strip beds
- Vacuum mattresses
- Take everything off dressers and dust/wipe down
- Wipe down everything before returning it to dresser
- Windex the mirrors and windows
- Dust the baseboards and windowsills
- Vacuum the rugs
- Put fresh sheets on the beds
BATHROOMS DETAILED LIST
- Remove all rugs/towels and throw into the wash
- Vanity and sink
- Wipe down everything
- Clean light fixtures
- Dust off baseboards/window sills/tp holder and towel rack
- Wipe down the walls
- Vacuum the floor
- Mop the floor
- Put out fresh hand towels
- Dust the baseboards
- Vacuum the rugs
- Dust the railings and spindles
- Vacuum the stairs
DOWNSTAIRS CLEANING DAY
KITCHEN DETAILED LIST
- Remove all rugs and throw into wash
- Anything that can go into the dishwasher goes in. If you have burner trays, knobs from the stove, sponges, cookie jar, canisters (my canisters are lined with plastic bags, so I only have to pull the bag out), microwave tray, any other washable kitchen knick-knacks or items. They all come out nice and shiny and you didn’t have to scrub anything.
- Remove all other items from the counters. Scrub the counters well and scrub everything before putting back onto the counters. The less you have cluttering your counters the less you have to clean!
- Scrub sink
- Wipe down all the outlets and behind the sink really well
- Wipe down cabinet and drawer fronts and handles
- Clean light fixtures
- Wipe down table legs and chair legs
- Wipe down the refrigerator and top of refrigerator.
- Clean out inside and outside of microwave
- Clean stove top and front
- Windex windows
- Get into the corners of the kitchen with your vacuum attachments
- Clean the baseboards and corners
- Sweep/vacuum floor
- Mop floor
FAMILY ROOM, LIVING ROOM, DINING ROOM DETAILED LIST
- Remove all knick-knacks and dust/clean surfaces (now is a good time to throw in knick-knacks that are washable into the dishwasher…vases, decorative dishes etc)
- Dust/clean baseboards and corners
- Dust ceiling fans, light fixtures
- Vacuum cushions on couch, if removable, remove and vacuum under cushions
- Vacuum the rugs
POWDER ROOM DETAILED LIST
- Remove and wash rugs
- Clean toilet and sink
- Clean baseboards
- Windex window/clean window sill/windex mirror
- Vacuum and mop floor
- Put out fresh guest towels
Vacuum, mop hallways, dust all baseboards and throw rugs into wash
This is a “FREE DAY!!!” The house is clean and as long as I keep up my daily chores, it stays that way.
I may vacuum if needed on these days.
I also recommend having “free days” for the purpose of flexibility.
You never know when you may have a sick child, or you yourself is sick, or some other life issue that pops up during the week.
This day can be used to stay on track and keep your schedule!
If my son is ill on Wed, then I’ll just push everything up a day.
So I’ll do the upstairs on Thurs and the downstairs on Fri. Nothing gets left undone and I don’t have to spend the weekend cleaning!
Make out Menu plan and shopping list
Welcome to the Housewife Hints blog! I hope you find some useful information here and maybe some chuckles along the way. I decided to create this blog after writing a column on another site for over a year. While I loved doing it and it was a great opportunity, I've decided it was time to strike out on my own. So here I am! A little about me..My name is Dawn and I'm 42 years old. I have two fabulous boys Ricky (14) and Ronny (12) and the most wonderful husband in the world..Louie! Oh you'll here a lot about Louie and the boys for sure! They keep me busy, no doubt about that! I became a sahm almost 4 years ago and have never looked back! To become a full time housewife was never a problem for me. I think I was raised, or should I say trained and groomed for this job my entire life. My Mother made sure I knew how to make a house a home and how to keep a home. Thats what I'm going to share with you. If your ready to make a change and to really embrace your role as a housewife, you've come to the right place. And if your a working Mom who needs help getting it together, I hope you find some useful information here! The bottom line is, be it a sahm or a working mom we all have the same goal...a happy family and a welcoming, warm, clean home!